How I got into Life Coaching?

In 2001 a good friend from my Toastmasters Club introduced me to Anthony Robbins Seminar. At that time, I thought that, that was something for people in sales, business and the corporate world who want to be motivated, who want to succeed in what they do. I was experiencing a retiring mindset. Little did I know that it was a turning point in my life! A 'Tai Tai' who think of nothing but shopping, high tea and breathing down my children's neck and husband's at times! Then it was a boring and meaningless life for me, really:) I thought that I was doing my friend a favor by attending the preview of Anthony Robbins Seminar. Then one thing led to another.

I was invited to the so called "UPW momentum gathering". UPW means Unleash the potential within! Whatever that means back then was anybody's guess! I certainly did not know what was that about. At that meeting I listened to people shared how much weight they lost, how they had clarity of who they are. Some of them who came back from Hawaii. Bankers paying something like US$17,000 for the Anthony Robbins package. For someone like me who had not been to a self development course or a motivational seminar before, I was really curious what that was about. Nevertheless, I picked up the book from my friend's bookshelf, "Awaken the Giant from within" by Anthony Robbins. I could not put the book down. Guess I would share more of what I got out of it next time................ Do you have any comments? or something to share?

30th Oct 06.........
Reflection of the past years. After 3 years........seems like a long time, that............... I felt like I have come full circle. At that time when I was reading Awaken the Giant Within, I jumped from pages to pages and applied what I had to apply into my life. I could remember vividly how to change my state of mind. Then my three teenagers were 8, 12, & 14 years old and there were many opportunities that I felt that I had to change my state of mind to remain sane! Ask most parents and they would definitely understand what I am saying. Communication was a great challenge. Some times I would sing when I knew that I was getting angry with them. That simply put is "breaking the pattern!" I did get into a happier mood. That was good enough for us to get by harmoniously. After a few times, my children got angry with my singing. They said "Mummy it's irritating!"; Because I kept repeating the few lines!

Since I am a "just do it person" this book was next to me most of that time. Each time I need to learn some new skills to deal with a challenging situation, I just flipped open the book. There were many things I don't quite understood at that time. Neuro Associative Conditioning (NAC) - what was that? Big words, nevertheless there were stories in the book to help me understand them better. Fortunately, there was a support group of people where we meet regularly to continue our journey. Of course, now I know NAC also meant the same thing as NLP - Neuro Linguistic Programming! Believe me, there is no short cut for self mastery. The process of self-discovery can take years! Now - Monday October 30th, 2006 when I revisit the book, I can understand most of what the book is saying. That is after having gone to many other self development courses, ups and downs, self awareness, insights, healing and releasing; Interacting with people, learning from gurus, mentors, trainers, books, CDs to name a few. In other words, working from inside out! The result is freedom from fear, or some say fear forward. Whichever connects with you!

Yes, my friends and clients said I could write a book, I think blogging is easier. I used to think it is crazy to tell your story in the blog. When I saw what my 11 year old blogged I was so surprised. I asked her, "You mean people talked about their life story?" Now when my 11 year old daughter saw what I wrote today, she said, "Yah, now you got it." " This is blogging. " I would rather call this 'Generation Gap!"

Nov 2, 06
Women who made changes in their lives, I am sure would at one point in their life asked, so if I change, my spouse don't change, what is the use? Since men work, they have less time to read and now what? This is what I did a few years ago, I tried leaving self help books in the bedroom, plant them on the bedside table, somewhere in the bedroom, on the dressing table, hoping that he would catch the hint. Unfortunately, then I have not read John Gray's book "Men are from Mars and Women from Venus." I did all kinds of things except ask him directly to read the self help books that I found useful! John Gray said, if you want a man to do something, just ask him! I just attended John Gray's seminar Sept 30 06! My husband bought his books but we left them on the bookshelf! After his seminar I started reading them whilst working out in the gym. Oh! how I wished I had read his books years' back! Certainly not to be missed, great life skills, simple to understand and easy to apply if you read slowly, absorb the essence and practice. Reflect and apply again. Practise being aware of your thoughts and actions. It connects with what I believe in my life! Wow!

I learned how important it is to value myself now. I believe many women suffered like me. Loss of identity. I acquired identity that does not align with my values. For many years, I dont even know what my values were; Unknowingly I was conditioned to beliefs that does not serve me. Now I realized how it had worked against me and the people who are close to me. How my beliefs also shaped my behaviours and habits. How it had affected the choices that I made in the past. Now that I know better, I do better. I create my own reality! I can now choose how I feel. This is liberating!

I am really grateful that I took all those self development courses and met many people who were my teachers because I was a ready student. As the saying goes, " When you are ready, the teacher will appear." So are you? The investment is truly enriching. When I got it, my loved ones benefitted too.

It took me a long time to understand how important it is to use goal setting as a framework to focus on my journey ahead. Time management has often been a challenge for me and I am sure for many people as well. Knowing what we value, can change a whole lot of perspective on how communications and relationship building is critical as a life skill! In business, workplace, at home and in the community!

My mission is to close the gap between parents, students and teachers. Goals setting, time management, values, communications and relationships are the key life-line to a balance life. Beginning with these life skills, I am sure making effective communications a world wide reality is a noble and purposeful journey.

Will share more................If you have any comments, questions please feel free to comment in my blog or email me. I am a new blogger.

What is life Coaching? **Benefits of Coaching

Life Coaching begins with people asking any one of these questions of themselves:

• "How to find my passion?"
• "I want to get out of this good paying job that I hate and do what I love!"
• "I want to start my own business, but how?"
• "How can I do better with my job?"
• "I want my life back!"
• "Why are you controlling me?"
• "Given a golden handshake and don't know what to do next?"
• "I cannot focus or concentrate!"

How do I know that I am ready for a shift in mindset? How do I know that I am going to make a change in my life? How to start changing?

Feel free to post your questions or comment here or email to dolly@mindset-coaching.com or
Visit my website www.mindset-coaching.com for more information on coaching.

**Benefits of being coached:

Coaching is a process of your experience of greater confidence, self-awareness, courage to create bigger dreams, new habits, new behavior and personal satisfaction. As a new 'you' emerged, you will get to know your values and the alignment to your inner self. You are able to make conscious decisions to make things happen. Living life as human being versus human doing.

Dear friends, one important question for you, yes, you my dear reader,
A question for you: "One year down the road, where do you see yourself?"

A glimpse of my experience of my being coached in 2003:
"During the process of being coached, I found gems along the way and yes, warts as well. I called them warts because they hinder my smooth transition to quality living. It was very uncomfortable at first. The encouragement and support of my coach together with my courage & action helped me break my pattern! I found courage to replace wishing to willing to take action! A Coach motivates and provides positive feedback. Keeps you focus on where you are and where you want to go. Positively showing you your blind spots! Things that I thought were very difficult were becoming easier, goals that I had been thinking and thinking and thinking for five years come true within eight months of being coached!

One to one coaching has given me bonus years! Each encounter and exploration is enriched by extraordinary experiences by an ordinary person. I can do it, so can you!"~ Dolly Yeo

Enjoying The Journey
Whether you are laboriously inching toward your cherished goals or you have already arrived, you will be more of a winner when you can experience yourself and your life joyfully.

Find pleasure in your work as you go after the things that add up to success for you. Stretch to the limit of your abilities and feel proud to put forth everything you have. You can turn failures into an advantage by enjoying the excitement and fun of playing with your unique style of life. This can be the big win for you.... and for everyone.

Smile at yourself more and appreciate the humor in the absurdity of your foibles, failures and manipulations. Watch out for the saboteur inside of you, and don't take your adult role-playing too seriously. Then you can have more fun observing the drama of your striving for a richer life.

When you can accept and believe that all of us have stamped visas.... That no one is getting out of this beautiful world alive.... you will learn to savour every hour.

I believe that a healthy way to get your revenge with death is to truly experience every sweet moment of your life now with feelings of gratefulness and wonder. It is a fascinating journey you are taking. Winning or failing, you win by just being here on this wondrous planet.

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Any thoughts to share? I welcome your email at dolly@mindset-coaching.com or
comment in this blog:)

Parent Coach For Teens

Parent Coach for Teens
To help you prepare your teens to become independent adults who have the skills and values to live meaningful lives and contribute to the communities. If you approach the ideas here with an open mind, you will have more confidence in parenting and enjoy the challenge in parenting teens. Take the best and discard the rest.

Teens are searching for their identities, their lives are no less stressful as ours. How do we help them to help themselves? Simple but not easy. Parents need to be role models and to influence your teens in a positive direction. To help them become independent youths who have self-responsibilities and make right choices. We need to first love ourselves before they can feel our love.

More often than not, their mental, physical & emotional development, can be a major challenge in this modern society with the speed of change. Parents who experienced hormonal changes in their retiring age could well relate to their teens' experiences.

You need to support each other during these trying times. Explain to them and talk about your difficulties so that they too could understand that creating a space can lead to loving energy within the family. Teens are not designed to drive you crazy nor you them. Not taking it personally is a good start.

Coaching is mentoring, guiding, supporting and encouraging. Coaching is not telling your child what to do. Parent Coach gives the ownership of self-responsibilities to the teens today. Teens need to learn responsibilities. The authoritative style of parenting does not auger well with today's democratic style of managing our lives. The environment is on a transition to more self-expression. Teens are confused by the need to be creative and to be told what to do. The influences from the media and TV give them a different perspective of what is.. There is a need for them to be heard and to express their views to grow and develop their innate potential. Encouragement to have self-expression helps them to think and develop confidence.

A Parent Coach listens about 80% and speaks 20% of the time. We need to know what works and what does not. A Parent Coach is aware.

Blog on 30th Oct 06
To start, take small steps to first build the relationship. Focus on them as a person. Catch them doing things right and praise them. Everyone of us need acceptance & acknowledgements. We thrive on praises. It is common for us to keep quiet when they do something right and when they do something wrong, we are ever-ready to highlight that to them. Does it sound familiar to you? Remember criticisms tear down instead of build up. Watch how they warm up to you and open up to you when you sing praises about their small achievements. Be sincere. Takes time, don't expect immediate change. Does not cost you a cent. Try it! It works!

You may have to put the emphasis on academic aside until they know you love them for who they are and not what they can achieve academically. They are just as worried about their studies as you are. Surprisingly, students I know want to connect with parents but dont know how. I did a research with secondary schools and was pleasantly surprised by my findings.
That gave me more enthusiasm to want to communicate this to parents. Parenting is a complex & challenging task, nevertheless when you learn more of what it takes, how you can become better, it is rewarding and also an area of self-discovery journey of knowing who you are!

I believe no one style fits all and every family has to fine tune and seek for family cooperation to connect with each other to bring their relationship to the next level. I find it more fulfilling and productive to focus on solution rather than complaining about each other and nothing change.

Life skills has become the most important topic in my vocabulary now. Whether you are a CEO, Manager, worker, Principal, Engineer, or any profession, knowing what you value and who you are is a good step to begin with. When you live your values, your children will emulate you. Be aware of what you say, do and believe in. Values are caught not taught.

Any thoughts to share? Pls post your comments here:)

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